It’s no secret that female sexual arousal and pleasure is a little more complicated than that of their male counterpart.
Primarily because women have different areas, inside and out, that can create arousal and bliss when rubbed the right way.
The G-spot isn’t a myth. It’s just one of the most elusive spots to stimulate because of how tough it can be to find it inside the vagina.
Some women never find their own G-spot.
If women have that much trouble finding it, imagine how few men know where it is and how to stimulate it.
Well, that ends today!
We’ll cover everything you need to know:
What is the G-spot
How do you find the G-spot
How to stimulate the G-spot during solo play
Best sex positions to stimulate the G-Spot
Female ejaculation and the G-spot
The Gräfenberg spot (more commonly known as the G-spot) is an area inside a woman's vagina associated with the clitoral network on the inside of the vagina.
Quick FAQs
The G-spot is located on the interior wall of the abdominal and pelvic side of the vagina.
The G-spot is often described as a fleshy, spongy tissue that typically becomes engorged and more pronounced as arousal builds and blood flow to the area increases.
Studies show that around 10% of women will experience a squirting orgasm with proper G-spot stimulation
Yes, certain sex positions like the Rocking Chair, Doggy Style, The Wheelbarrow, and Upright Cowgirl do make G-spot stimulation easier.
What is the G-spot?
The G-spot, named for Ernst Gräfenberg, was a pioneer in female sexual health and pleasure research in the early 1900s.
The clitoris, while primarily known as the small nub tucked at the apex of the inner labia (vulva lips), is much larger than its outward appearance.
The clitoris can also be different in size and shape across various vulva owners. When properly stimulated, it becomes engorged and reveals itself more prominently as it emerges from under the clitoral hood.
The internal "roots" of the clitoris, which aren’t visible from the outside, can be several inches long as it extends into the vagina.
This bundle of incredibly pleasurable nerves around the urethral sponge is what’s known as the G-spot.
While the G-spot has a history of being debated by scientists and researchers, as did other female erogenous zones like the clitoris when first “discovered,” the pleasure that awaits those willing to find and stimulate the G-spot, either directly or indirectly, is settled science.
As many vagina owners (myself included) can attest, G-spot stimulation during masturbation or sexual play may induce a G-spot orgasm.
Where is the G-spot?
Finding your G-spot can be different from one person to the next.
Some women report that the G-spot is an area of more pronounced flesh just inside the front wall of the vagina that has the texture of a soft, rippled walnut.
The urethral sponge (where the G-spot is said to be located) can feel slightly softer than the area surrounding it, but that may not always be the case.
Many women are better able to find their G-spot for the first time during self-exploration, when she has no audience, and the benefits of more time and less pressure to discover their body.
This makes it easier to show and tell their partner(s) how and where to find the G-spot during coupled play.
Sure, the G-spot can be stimulated during penetrative play or sex with a partner, too, but the first time, it may be easier to feel your way around during masturbation.
Plus, it’s much easier to find the G-spot when aroused because the blood rushing to the area may make the G-spot more engorged and discernible from the rest of the inside of the vagina.
Get in a comfortable position where you feel most relaxed. Put on some soothing music if you want. Turn off any distractions so you can just focus on your body and your pleasure.
Start with some external stimulation; play with your labia and your clit, and build up your arousal. Use some lubricant for a smoother glide as you play inside and out.
Once you’ve built up your pleasure, insert one or two fingers inside of your vagina, whatever feels comfortable for you.
With your receptive partner facing you, point your fingertips up towards the front of the body (towards the anterior/front wall of the vagina). Then, gently slide your fingers in and up a few inches inside the vagina and, with your fingertips, begin caressing the anterior pelvic wall.
You should feel an area with a different texture than the rest of your vagina; it can feel more upraised and is commonly described as a fleshy, spongy, or bumpy area.
Once you think you’ve found it, don’t press too hard. Gently stroke the spot by making a come-hither motion with your fingers.
If you don’t find your G-spot right away, or if it doesn’t immediately feel pleasurable to you, don’t fret.
The first time (or first few times), it can feel a little strange to stimulate your G-spot in this way, even if you’ve already had penetrative play or sex.
Some women describe the sensation as needing to pee or a strange feeling of pressure.
G-spot stimulation can feel different for different women and at different times of your menstrual cycle, when you may feel more or less sensitive or responsive.
If you’ve explored the inside of your vagina when you’re fully aroused and still can’t seem to find the spot with your fingers, change it up a bit.
Try changing the way you’re moving your fingers, change up the fingers you’re using, or even try a G-spot toy.
Vary the pressure, speed, vibrations, and so forth. And just enjoy the pleasure of your experience.
Don’t pressure yourself into being obligated to give yourself a G-spot orgasm. If it comes, it comes.
G-spot orgasm vs. clitoral orgasms: What's the difference?
Female orgasms can be complicated, which makes it feel extra gratifying once you have one – especially when you evoke one in your partner.
Clitoral and G-spot orgasms, or better yet, the blended orgasm, can bring about a myriad of different physiological experiences.
Every woman’s body is different. Her experiences can vary depending on so many factors, including how relaxed she feels, her play partner(s), how she’s stimulated, her state of mind, and so forth.
Being aroused and lubricated can definitely contribute to your success in achieving either type of orgasm.
If you need a little boost in those departments, try VitaFlux for Women.
G-spot orgasms also referred to as vaginal orgasms, feel different and produce a different physiological response than orgasms from clitoral stimulation.
During a G-spot orgasm, the cervix actually pushes downward into the vaginal canal.
During clitoral orgasms, the opening of the vagina sort of balloons out.
These two orgasmic experiences can feel quite different, and different nerve groups may even be stimulated with each type of physiological response to climax.
Some women claim that clitoral orgasms are not as intense as G-spot or vaginal orgasms, but this can be a matter of opinion, and some G-spot or clitoral orgasms can be more or less intense too.
That said, another amazing fact is that stimulation of the G-spot may be more likely to lead to female ejaculation (or squirting) than clitoral orgasms.
Certain sex positions make stimulating the G-spot during penetration more likely, and general missionary is not one of them.
Here are a few good positions to try during sex with your partner(s) to stimulate the G-spot.
Doggy Style
Doggy-style sex allows deeper penetration and more control over the angle of entry, which is why it’s a go-to for couples doing a little G-spot stimulation experimentation.
How to do it:
The woman gets on her hands and knees (on all fours)
Her partner penetrates her from behind with their penis, a strap-on dildo, or a sex toy
The penetrating partner can lean downward or tilt their hips at an angle to hit their partner’s G-spot
Rocking Horse
The rocking horse sex position is a variation of the upright cowgirl position.
The female's position is essentially the same, but the man does not lie down.
Once again, this female-on-top position gives her greater control over the angle of penetration, speed, and pressure, so she can more accurately achieve gratification.
How to do it:
The man (or partner with a strap-on) sits cross-legged on the bed, leaning back and supporting his weight with his arms
The woman straddles the man facing him, with her legs on either side of his body or wrapped around his back
Rock back and forth with different motions and speeds to find the right spot
Bonus: this move can be more intimate because of how close your bodies are to each other, and it makes kissing easier, too.
More intimacy can also lead to more comfort and enhance the chance for an orgasm (any type of orgasm) to happen.
Spooning
Spooning is a low-impact sex position done while lying down with neither partner having to really do anything challenging.
The angle of penis entry and the legs-up position of the woman can make stimulating the G-spot a little easier from behind.
How to do it:
Lie down together on your sides in a spooning position, with the man behind her and facing her back.
The female is the little spoon and lifts her bent knees forward in front of her to make it easier for her partner to penetrate from behind.
With her legs together, this can make for a tighter fit and more vaginal friction.
Move together and experiment with different angles of her legs until you stimulate the right spot.
Bonus, this position makes clitoral stimulation and access to her other erogenous zones (like her breasts) even more doable.
Upright Cowgirl
Upright cowgirl is simply the classic woman-on-top position, making it easy for her to control the depth and angle of penetration and making it easier for her to find and stimulate her G-spot during sex.
How to do it:
Penetrating partner lies on their back
The woman straddles their penetrating partner, facing them, with her knees on either side of her partner’s body.
Experiment with different speeds, angles, and motions as she rolls her hips into his.
This position also allows her partner to access all of her other erogenous zones, including her clitoris and nipples.
You can also achieve G-spot orgasms with the Reverse Cowgirl position, which is the same as Upright Cowgirl, but the female faces her partner’s feet instead.
That changes the angle of penetration.
Depending on the natural angle of her partner’s penis or dildo, this can make for more or less of a pleasurable experience and more G-spot stimulation.
Wheelbarrow
The wheelbarrow position is a rear-entry position similar to Doggy Style.
However, instead of her being on her hands and knees, the penetrating partner supports her legs by lifting them up (such as they would with a wheelbarrow).
The angle of penetration can be just right for stimulating her G-spot.
How to do it:
The woman lays on her stomach, supporting her upper body on her elbows (if it’s more comfortable, she can also support herself on her hands (palms flat). Or use pillows underneath her to raise her hips upwards towards her penetrating partner.
The penetrating partner gets between her legs and holds her legs straight behind her, spreading them open.
Adjust entry by shifting either of your positions, lifting higher or lower, and spreading her legs closer or farther apart.
What to expect
So, once you find your G-spot tucked away in the wall of the vagina, then what? What will stimulation of the G-spot feel like?
Here are a few things you may need to know in advance.
How will it feel?
As is true of all types of stimulation, not all women enjoy or react the same way to the sensation of G-spot stimulation.
However, the general consensus is that when this erogenous area is stimulated, the sensation can be a toss-up between extremely pleasurable and feeling the need to urinate.
The latter is often caused by the pressure needed to stimulate the G-spot and its position inside the vagina, which usually falls just below the bladder.
Some women also report that G-spot stimulation generates a warming sensation throughout their body and vagina, building the closer she gets to orgasm.
Will stimulating my G-spot make me squirt?
Female ejaculation could be more likely during stimulation of the G-spot, but so could squirting, which are two different things.
However, it is important to understand the difference between "squirting" and female ejaculation from the female prostate.
Generally speaking, squirting is an occurrence that involves the release of a thin fluid during orgasm that is a lot like urine.
Technically, G-spot stimulation may cause squirting because of the proximity of the G-spot to the bladder.
By contrast, female "ejaculate" is a thicker, creamier fluid that has nothing to do with urine.
Female ejaculation can occur during vaginal orgasms, which may be closely related to stimulation of the G-spot.
Women have what is often referred to as the female prostate inside their body that surrounds the urethra.
The female prostate is actually Skene's glands, which are small glands situated around the urethra.
During a G-spot orgasm, these glands may produce secretions similar to male ejaculate.
Both experiences can feel very pleasurable and can be achieved in different ways and at different times, depending on the various types of stimulation.
Is G-spot stimulation safe?
When done consensually, G-spot stimulation can be perfectly safe.
Making sure your G-spot-owning partner is aroused and well-lubricated before penetration is key to increasing her safety (and personal comfort).
A well-lubricated vagina is much less likely to create pain or experience micro-tears during penetrative play or sex.
Some women find the direct sexual sensations produced with G-spot stimulation uncomfortable, or they prefer stimulating the clitoris, which is perfectly OK.
This is one reason why it is best to explore the spot on your own before getting a partner involved—you have more control over what you feel and can quickly decide if you enjoy stimulating the area or not.
Preparation
Before going on a self-discovery mission to find your G-spot, some women find it helpful to prepare with the right tools and possibly even a little grooming.
Supplies
One of the most important things to be when looking for the famous Gräfenberg spot is aroused and well lubricated.
So, having a good lube on hand is essential (as it is for any kind of sexual play).
Lubrication will help retain the fluid motions needed for repetitive stimulation, especially if you use a toy or do an extended session in an attempt to achieve an orgasm.
When you have more control over the movements of your fingers, a good rhythm is easier to achieve; a lot of hair can get in the way of that.
Further, some women find it more arousing when things are well-groomed and may feel more comfortable or confident.
That said, you don’t have to have a vulva that’s bare and completely free of hair to experience pleasure.
Whatever makes you most comfortable is the key. Your G-spot is located inside the body, so having an external fuzz buffer isn’t a big deal.
Toys
The right sex toy can make all the difference when you are either searching for your G-spot or simply trying to stimulate it and achieve an orgasm.
The selection of toys and G-spot vibrators built specifically for this purpose is quite vast.
Some vibrate, some pulsate, and some simply have a uniquely tilted tip that makes hitting the right spot a lot easier to manage.
Important Takeaways
While the G-spot may not be a legitimate by-the-book part of female sexual anatomy, the G-spot can generate extremely pleasurable sensations for many women.
The more stimulated the different parts of her body become, the more she will begin to feel aroused, which makes it more likely that she’ll experience pleasure – even if she doesn’t reach orgasm (yet).
In fact, with a bit of self-exploration, a little know-how, and the right positions, you may be able to experience an entirely new kind of orgasm.
Possibly even an orgasm that leads to female ejaculation or squirting. Or maybe, with a bit of luck, the elusive blended orgasm (simultaneous G-spot and clitoral orgasm).
G-spot exploration can be a lot of fun on your own, but this nerve-ridden spot may also be just as much fun to stimulate with a partner to share in the experimentation (or even just to watch you as you do).
Communication is crucial every step of the way so that your partner can better understand what does (and doesn’t) feel good and make your experiences even more pleasurable.
Don’t forget that practice makes perfect, and enjoying every moment along the way is the key.
Orgasm is not the goal: pleasure and connection with your body are the most important parts of sexual play.
Lexi Sylver is the Montreal-based erotica author of "Mating Season" and "All the Queen’s Men". She is also the producer and host of "Cocktails and Erotic Tales" as well as her "Swinging 101" webinar series. As an entrepreneur, advocate, educator, podcaster, public speaker and coach for ethical non-monogamy and sexual empowerment, she regularly contributes articles about sexuality and relationships to ASN Lifestyle Magazine, SDC.com and her personal blog, among other places. Her mission is to promote empowerment and education by guiding you to shamelessly explore your sexuality. Get Lexual at lexisylver.com
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Upright cowgirl is simply the classic woman-on-top position, making it easy for her to control the depth and angle of penetration and making it easier for her to find and stimulate her G-spot during sex.
